RevGals Friday Five: Patience or Pigheadedness

(Photo of a tree on the rim of the Grand Canyon, from the files of Mompriest, a true sign of tenacity or maybe patience)

Sally over at RevGals is growing a vegetable garden and celebrating the graduation of three of her children from college, both of which she thinks have required a certain amount of patience and some pigheadedness for the school completion. She offers this Friday Five Meme as a result:

1. Is patience a virtue you possess? If it is then does it come naturally, if not how do you/ did you work at it? I remember a friend of mine talking about her young children and their efforts to get their way – dawdling, distracted, temper tantrums, etc. She said, I can always wait them out and outlast them, they won’t wear me down just to get their way….or something like that. I do not have that kind of patience. After a time I’d just scoop my kids up and say, “Off we go!” or get angry, or sometimes give in (not my best parenting response). I do practice having patience and waiting and being mindful. I think I go in spurts of action and then non-action, of impatience and then patience. Almost always though this is an internal process for me, what I am actually doing might look very different.

2. Being patient with ourselves can be a huge challenge, we are often our own worst critics; is there anything you need to be patient with yourself with at the moment? Yes. I am trying to lose a little weight, which seems to be a huge effort for the first time ever. I watch my intake and exercise a lot and increase my metabolism, but with very little response. I am however getting into shape even if I’m not losing much weight. I look better even if I’m not “smaller”. At 53 it’s a tough process. I am also in a job search and that definitely requires significant patience, reflection, and self examination.

3. Are you the kind of person who can/ will persist with a difficult task? How much of this is personality related? I can be tenacious and stick to it. I can also let it go when it seems to be a lost cause. Sometimes I may let things go pre-emtively if it feels like there is too much resistance, but that depends. Mostly I have a high degree of perseverance under challenge and work hard to move through it.

4. Can you spot when persistence turns into pig-headed-ness, or do you never get there? On occasion I have indeed become pig-headed, it’s what helped me earn a dual-degree with two young kids. Some think I was pig-headed in my desire to do some healthy things at a place that did not want to look at the unhealthiness and make better choices. That was a place where I eventually had to let go.

5. Post a song or a poem that chills you out and helps you to re-group, re-focus and carry on? For many years I would get a massage and use the music from American Indian Flutist, Carlos Nakai. His music definitely chills me in the best of ways. Now I take a yoga class or do one of my yoga CD’s when I need to chill and focus. I also practice silent prayer/mediation for 40 minutes a day. I find my center in silence.

Bonus, a picture or a photo that speaks to you of patience or persistence….

These tress live on the top of the Rockies, 9,600 feet up. Although it was early May when I took this photo it was still 30 degrees, cold, windy, and snowing. The represent a great deal of patience and tenacity waiting for summer, for warmth, for sun. They also have a great deal of strength to survive the harsh elements at this altitude.


About Terri C Pilarski

I am an Episcopal priest serving a delightfully progressive, interesting, creative congregation. I have been married more than half my life to the same man. We have two grown children, plus two dogs and two cats, although the number of four legged household members changes from time to time. I love to garden, knit, read, and play on Facebook or with my blog. I have been a practitioner of daily meditation since I was nineteen. I practice yoga five days a week and walk every where I am able too.
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5 Responses to RevGals Friday Five: Patience or Pigheadedness

  1. altar ego says:

    You and I are the same age, and it is a bear to try to lose weight. The excess I carry just piled itself on without permission or invitation, and I am very unhappy about it. Even when I had a few pounds to lose I never considered myself fat or heavy. Now, heavy is definitely a word that can be applied. Kudos to you for your persistence in working at it! And blessings on your journey in other areas that require patience and perseverence.

  2. angela says:

    I know what you mean about the kiddo–since I'm in my late forties with a 2 yr old it's sometimes not a nice combo. I want her to be active and me, well, I've been a yoga person not a go out and jog person. It always looks painful.Thanks for the reminder about the trees–sometimes a mountaintop is the most renewing place. I liked all your insights.

  3. RevDrKate says:

    I like the trees…yes you are persistent in the good places, I remember the year I first "met" you as a blogger and you were definitely persisting through a hard place with patience.

  4. Sally says:

    love, just love the trees! ( are you my secret twin???)

  5. I wish I knew what the person before me said. I'm getting so many postings from Chinese, Japanese, Korean. I think they all say buy Viagra from me!Wish I had time to do meditation, yoga, swim, think…

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